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Photo Hunt: In Memory

Theme: In Memory

Pretty Boy Protective
In memory of the sweetest kitty in the world, who was so protective of a little girl.
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On the hunt

Tomorrow is the 2nd anniversary of the death of my mother-in-law.
I’m on the hunt for pictures of her. I swear I had some on the tower, but now they’re not there. I have no idea where the back-up CDs are. *grumble* I do know where the Walmart picture CDs are though. I know there are pictures on there 🙂

Tomorrow’s post will be dedicated to her, so if you don’t like sappy stuff, I’d advise you not to read. You’ve been warned 🙂

Making doctors appointments

I’m so not a fan of making phone calls. I have a tendency to babble because I’m nervous. I’ve got a semi-fear of the phone. If I know who I’m talking to, I’m just fine, and I can jabber on for hours. Anything else, and I’m a shaking, quivering mess. So, right now, I’m a shaking, quivering mess because my nerves are shot.

But, the good news is that Ethan is now officially transfered to Dr. Pridgett, at Pediatric Associates, in Topeka, KS. Madison has an appointment in July, for her 5 year check-up, since we’ll be out of town in June for her birthday. Ethan has one 3 days after his third birthday, for his third year check-up. He missed his second year, as did Madi with her 3rd and 4th year, because Medicaid kept screwing with their coverage and their doctors.

Now, I’m waiting on a call back from an gynecologist that’s come highly recommended for me to see, since I’m nervous with doctors. She’s supposed to absolutely be amazing. My sister-in-law saw her until she (SIL) switched insurance providers. My mother-in-law saw her before she passed. My friend, Kristen, has seen her through 3 pregnancies, and 3 cesareans. I should be hearing back sometime tomorrow, since the phones are closed at this point.

Budgeting the time

The biggest thing, I’ve found, as a mom and a blogger, and trying to make money online, is that you have to budget your time. To do everything you need to do in any given day is the ultimate goal. The realistic goal is to at least complete two or three things, because kids are extremely unpredictable.

Here it is midnight, here in Topeka, and both my husband and I are wide-awake and kids are asleep. We could be doing some cleaning, maybe folding some laundry, or anything besides what we’re doing. He’s playing The Sims 2, and I’m playing on my laptop. Tomorrow is his day off, and even though he’ll be the one getting up with our kids in the morning, he’s taking advantage of the free time. I’m just sitting here, watching SoapNET and doing my first official blog entry.

Before I ramble on too much, as I have a tendency to do, the real topic of the post: budgeting time.

There are a few important points to take into account when it comes to budgeting your time.

  1. Figure out how much you must get done each day
  2. Figure out how much time you have each day
  3. Figure out what else you need to do

So, you’ve got what you have to get done, and how much time you have. Most likely there’s not enough time to get it all done, right? Trust me, I know the problem. I face it all the time.

Biggest and best advice I ever received was from my mother-in-law before she passed: take it one day at a time. She didn’t mean it as just live it one day at a time, but to split up the major chores, one for each day. For example, laundry done on Saturday, since the work week is usually Monday through Friday, major kitchen cleaning on another day, vacuuming another, etc. It worked well for her for at least 20 years, and that was with 3 kids, and her working part-time, and then later, working 2 jobs.

Sometimes it helps to have a calender that’s dedicated just to household chores, along with dates of bills due. It’ll be killing two birds with one stone doing it that way.

Katy also had some great suggestions for budgeting your time, including budgeting time for reading e-mails, and reading and following up on blogs. Honestly, I don’t think I could be that strict with it, but I plan on trying it in a few weeks, just to see if it speeds up my productivity. I plan on doing a few things, as tests. Maybe my experiences will help you.

Thursday Thirteen – I Miss Kathy

13 Reasons We Love and Miss Kathy

This week’s Thursday Thirteen is dedicated to my mother-in-law who passed away in October of 2006. Today would have been her 50th birthday, and she’s royally missed. Every day I wake up, wishing it wasn’t true, even after over a year. It still just doesn’t feel real. In the picture above, she’s the one in the blue dress.

  1. “You need to sleep with my son”
    That’s gotta be my number one reason I loved Kathy. She told that to me one morning because Josh was being royally pissy, and she assumed it was because he wasn’t getting laid, 😆
  2. She was a trip and a half.
    She had this amazing personality that just shined in everything and anything she did
  3. Madison
    Madison, personality-wise, is like a mirror image of Kathy. Madison and Kathy were thick as thieves.
  4. Ethan
    Her nickname for him was “Turtle”, because he took things so slow, and because, when he was a newborn, he looked like a turtle. His favorite animal is a turtle now, and goes nuts every time he sees one
  5. Food
    I know it sounds kind of off, but Kathy had a way with food. She could cook the same 4 ingredients over and over, and it would still come out different each time
  6. Heart
    Kathy had an amazing heart. She loved fully and openly, and made sure you knew she loved you. She made sure she told everyone every day.
  7. Josh
    Josh’s heart is still healing over the loss of his mom. I’d love to give him just one more day with her, one more chance to say “I love you, Mom”.
  8. Jamie
    Jamie seriously needs her mom right now. I think Jamie got a lot of her strength from her mom, especially during difficult and stressing times.
  9. Cows
    Don’t ask, just believe, XD. No, seriously, Kathy had a major things for cows. She loved those things, even when they tried to run her over for their food.
  10. Life
    Kathy was always so full of life. She lived every day to its fullest. I honestly believe she didn’t have any regrets about where life took her, and man, did I have so much respect for her for that.
  11. Trust
    Kathy was someone you could always put your trust into. You knew, going in, that she would do what’s right, and would help anyway she could
  12. Hope
    Kathy had so much hope for life, and for everyone in it. She was almost always optimistic about any situation
  13. Anchor
    She was the anchor that held this family together. Now, it seems to be falling apart, and no one seems to know how or wants to fix it.